Everyone knows moving can be tough. For many people it’s not an option. Whether you’ve accepted a new job or need a change of life, moving can be even more stressful for your kids than you. They’ll have to say goodbye to old friendships and become the new kid in school. And if you’ve ever had to go through that, you’ll remember just how nerve wracking it was. If you’re mindful of your children through the whole process, you’ll have an easier transition to your new life.
Telling The Children
Telling your kids is the hardest part of the move. Tell them you’re moving as soon as the plans are finalized, and tell them why the move is necessary. Holding out will do no good. Your children will most likely be upset anyway, so give them time to cope and tell their friends. If you have control over the time you can move, try to do it in the summer. It’s easier to start at a new school fresh in the fall.
If your child is upset, you can do a few things to ease the pain! Let your kids open up to you. Let them share their feelings, and you can bounce thoughts off of each other. Kids ease a lot of their pain by talking to adults, and on the flip side, you can try to get them excited. Tell your kids the advantages of the new area, and show them pictures of new places around your house. If you can get tickets or a membership to a fun place around your new town, let your kids know. It will give them something to look forward to.
Preparing For The Move
Make sure your child is a help in the whole moving process. Moving is difficult, and everyone is dealing with stress! Nobody in the family should get to sit out on the couch while work needs to be done, but be sure to take nice breaks.
Moving is an excellent chance to get rid of all the junk. Have your kids help you go through all of the stuff you don’t need, but let them hang on to certain things they really care about. Give your child a special box and let them pack all of their favorite things into it, such as stuffed animals and games. When you arrive at your new house, make sure this box comes out first. It’ll provide your child with comfort.
At some point before hitting the road, make sure your children get a chance to see their friends. Arrange a time for them to do something fun, perhaps on a weekend.
The New Home
When you arrive at your new home, let your child have a say in the decoration of their new room. Get their rooms arranged first. When you’re getting more settled in, try to get involved with the community to keep their mind off the move. Try having family over to see the new place. Once you’ve been living in your new house for awhile, try to take a trip back to your old neighborhood (if it’s within driving distance.) Your kids will be ecstatic to see their old friends. Hopefully you found these tips helpful. Good luck!